Shay, a certified nursing assistant (CNA) at a veteran’s hospital, was working a night shift when she heard an alarm sound. The alarm was to signal that a patient was in need of help, so she quickly went to assist.
Shay said, while the male patient who needed help is typically independent, he had just been moved into a different section of the hospital and hadn’t quite gotten situated yet. After she assisted him and was getting him settled, she noticed some mail sitting on a nearby wheelchair.
“There was this envelope and under it was a birthday card. I picked it up and was like, ‘Hey! It has the St. Joseph’s Indian School logo on it,’ which I immediately recognized but hadn’t seen in years,” said Shay.
Shay picked up the card and asked the veteran patient, who is not named to protect his privacy, if he was a donor of the school. She said he responded, “Yes, I’ve donated for years. It was my birthday last week and I received the card.”
The serendipitous moment had Shay’s mind racing. What were the odds that this patient was a donor of St. Joseph’s Indian School, and she an alumna? What were the odds they would both be in the same place, at the same time, after two very different walks of life? What were the odds that she, and not another CNA, would be the one to answer this veteran’s alarm?
“I was kind of in shock. I looked at him and I said, ‘I actually went to this school for 12 years of my life,” said Shay. “I then said, ‘Thank you for being a part of my upbringing.’”
She said he was as surprised as she.
“He told me he was glad to have met me,” said Shay.
Shay described the chance connection as the universe bringing the two of them together. When she returned to the nurses’ station, she said, “You’re not going to believe this!” and quickly told the other nurses the events that had just taken place.
“While I’m so thankful for St. Joe’s, I don’t too often go around talking about my school years. But, we had been having a conversation about school before I answered the patient call. I had told them I went to a residential school so when I got back I was like, “He is a donor to my school!” said Shay. “It was all just really crazy and made me nostalgic.”
Shay attended St. Joseph’s Indian School for 12 years before graduating from high school in 2011. After graduation she held various jobs before falling in love with the nursing field. She is now a traveling certified nursing assistant, stationed in the southwest. The job provides her the ability to help others, while also providing for her family, which includes children Liam and Arthur and nephew Ashton — something that sounds so simple in nature, but means so much.
Shay’s grandmother raised Shay and her sister full time before the siblings came to St. Joseph’s. Knowing she wanted the best education and opportunities for her grandchildren, her grandmother made the decision to enroll the girls at St. Joseph’s. She knew the school would provide everything the young girls needed — clothing, food, a top-notch education, the opportunity to travel, and a safe place to grow-up, away from the negative side effects of poverty that can plague reservation communities in South Dakota.
“I loved my time at St. Joe’s and it will always be my little safe place and this light in my memories,” said Shay. “But I’m really proud that I was able to graduate and I’m in a position where I don’t have to send my kids away to school. I can be the mom who packs their lunches, or takes them to basketball practice, and do all the normal things that I wouldn’t necessarily have had if I would’ve grown-up on the reservation.”
What Shay describes is essentially the living embodiment of St. Joseph’s mission — the mission for children to grow-up into adults with the tools they need to achieve their goals, big or small.
And it is all possible because of donors, like the veteran Shay helped that night.
Shay still visits the veteran from time to time. The birthday card now sits atop his desk, on display with a birthday message inside, and the St. Joseph’s logo on the back — the logo that connected two strangers and put them on common ground.
“I’m not sure if he will always remember our conversation,” said Shay. “But, I know I’ll never forget it.”
To this veteran donor and all of our donors, we say philámayaye — thank you — for providing Native American children the opportunity at a brighter future at St. Joseph’s Indian School!
YES, it is truly a WORTHY place to donate!
This story is exactly about who we are as a mission. Child Services and development who connect people in a good way. Happy Veteran’s day! Akíčhita Thaáŋpétu!
I’m so glad Shay shared this story with all of us. We donors especially love stories of St. Joseph’s alumni and what they go on to accomplish in life. And, thank you St. Joseph’s for sending this story on Veteran’s day. My husband and I attended the 2019 Powwow and I was especially touched by the way the veterans attending (of which my husband is one), were honored at the beginning of the festivities. God bless our veterans and those who care for them.
AWESOME story!!! Life has a way of coming full circle!!
Very cool story! I had a story to share involving a Veteran that was my neighbor for 25 years. My neighbor became ill with Leukemia in September of 2021. Three weeks later his wife passed away. He asked me to help him do housework and get his mail, run errands and grocery shop for him, which I agreed. While I was unloading groceries in his kitchen one day, I saw in his mail that he received mail from St Joseph’s Indian school. I told him I was a donor and was familiar with the school. Come to find out, he was adopted and had served in Vietnam in the Army. Although he married, he was never able to have children of his own. He said he became a donor to help out kids and considered the kids like his own that he could never have, and being adopted, he knew what it felt like to not be with his biological parents and family. He ended up passing away in Jan 2022, but before he did, he gave me his cards and things he had received from the school over the years. I continue to be a donor and wish to carry out his legacy of helping the beautiful Native American kids at St Josephs. May God bless the school, children and staff, and all Veterans this year!
Thnak you for being so kind and thoughtful. Shay’s story along with the notes from the children really gives me, an old man of 84 and a Vietnam veteran, the feeling of a personal touch. Perhaps the unique ability you have to make those of us who see the value in St. Josephs feel like we are friends and associates is same quality that gives the children the comfort and safety that is catalytic to their learning.
I give a bit, what I can afford to several charities but St. Josephs is truly special.
Thank you so much! We appreciate your kind words and generosity. A little still goes a long way. Thank you for your service to our country!
I did 4 years on a submarine out of Charleston, SC. I recommend a service tour for all those that have graduated and don’t know what to do next in life. It was a wonderful learning experience and I am very glad I choose submarines. Exciting work with extra pay and the best food in the service.
I thank you for the accolades and for remembering me at this time. Believe in God and yourself and always give your best at whatever you do.
Thank You
Charles N Yates STS2 (ss)
As a retired soldier, the stories from this email really made this Veterans Day a special one. I normally don’t even notice when it is veterans day. Not one person ever says anything about me being a veteran on this day. For me, it’s just another day. I’m normally very quiet on Veterans Day and especially Memorial Day as I remember the friends of mine that never came home. My father, who was on Gen. Eisenhower’s staff in WWII died on Memorial Day, in 1964. So that day has many meanings for me!
Thank you for sending this special email to me today. I am very glad someone is thinking of me.
Proud St. Joseph’s donor,
Steve
Thank you for your kind words and thank you, especially, for your service! It certainly is not just another day and we are happy to hear our messaged touched your heart.
I TRUELY LOVED THIS STORY. I AM VERY HAPPY TO BE A PART OF ST. JOE’S FAMILY. AS I SAID I HAVE COLLECTED A BUNCH OF WRIST WATCHES FOR THE CHILDREN AT CHRISTMAS. I WILL CALL WHEN I SEND THEM. I WILL CHAT WITH SOMEONE ON THE BEST WAY TO GET THESE TO THE CHILDREN I PRAY THERE WILL BE “TOO MANY” FOR THEM. I ASKED A WHILE BACK IF SOMEONE WOULD SEE IF YOU COULD HELP ME LOCATE A FELLOW NAVY VETERAN I WAS STATIONED WITH ON GUAM FROM 1972 THRU 1974. I BELIEVE HE WORKED IN AVIATION ON A/C ENGINES HE WOULD HAVE BEEN AN “ADJ” HE WAS A LAKOTA SIOUX NATIVE FROM SOUTH DAKOTA. HIS NAME WAS LAWRENCE OR LARRY YOUNG. HE IS AROUND MY AGE OF 70 YRS OLD. THATS ALL I KNOW ABOUT HIM. IF YOU YOU COULD FIND OUT ANY INFO ABOUT HIM, I’D APPRICIATE IT. EVEN IF HE IS DECEASED ID LIKE TO KNOW.
Thank you for your kind words, Rod! We will check our records to see if there was ever a student who attended St. Joseph’s by that name and get back to you if we find anything. Thank you for your service!
IF THERE ARE MORE THAN ONE RESERVATION IN SOUTH DAKOTA, CAN THEY BE CHECKED TOO? IT DOESNT HAVE TO BE DONE AT THIS MOMENT. IM JUST CURIOUS.
THANKS,
ROD
Thanks for your question! There are 9 reservations in South Dakota. They do not need to be checked into and anyone can drive into them, if that is what you mean. Our school is located in Chamberlain, SD, which is not on a reservation but is very near two of them: Crow Creek and Lower Brule.
ALL I REMEMBER IS THAT HE WAS A LAKOTA SIOUX FROM SOUTH DAKOTA. IF ITS TOO HARD TO CHECK, THANKS FOR ALL YOU HAVE DONE.