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Today at mass I received the sacrament of anointing of the sick, as the students and staff prayed for me before I got ready to head off to the hospital.

Sunday, May 23, 2010

Today at mass I received the sacrament of anointing of the sick, as the students and staff prayed for me before I got ready to head off to the hospital.

I actually feel fairly calm and confident about the doctors’ ability to handle the tumor, and my body and the Good Lord’s abilities to heal.

The surgery doesn’t scare me. It’s the unknown period of rehab and limitation afterward that I won’t know how to handle until I’m in the midst of it. Yet, it’s in the tough times of life I have to trust God to carry me through.

Maria, a third grader, brought me up a beautifully wrapped present from the students – a liturgical stole with images of Old Testament characters sewn upon it. The base color was green – ordinary time, which we return to after today’s Feast of Pentecost.

I’m looking forward to the time when I feel ordinary and life gets back to its regular routine. The gesture was a nice and fitting send off.

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I mostly answered cards and letters and got my desk cleared off as much as possible. I really don’t know how long I’ll be gone for medical leave.

Saturday, May 22, 2010

I spent most of the day in the office, with no one else around.

I mostly answered cards and letters and got my desk cleared off as much as possible. I really don’t know how long I’ll be gone for medical leave.

Rather than feeling like a chore, each letter gave me a sense of blessing and being cared for. I also fielded several phone calls from friends and relatives checking up on me and offering their encouragement.

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Today was our end of the year retreat for our graduating 8th graders.

Friday, May 21, 2010

Today was our end of the year retreat for our graduating 8th graders.

Parts of the day recalled memories of the year and asked the students to share some of their highs and lows. Other parts of the day were meant to help them think about high school and beyond, while helping identify their hopes and fears. Other events were meant to help them pray and celebrate being together.

Staff were invited to write a few words of advice or congratulations to any of the students in a letter. We took a half hour of quiet to let the students read through the notes. I noticed quite a few tears of gratitude, nostalgia and laughter. Many of these young people I’ve known since they were third graders, and they’ve grown up right in front of my eyes. I have vivid memories of so many of them.

I said a few words of goodbye since I won’t be at graduation. Graduation is a big event for our youngsters, and I’ll miss being a part of it all. But, I plan to be back strong in the fall and be what support I can through their high school years.

Our current crop of high school students finished their semester at the public school today. As I walked around campus, I noticed many of their families had arrived and were loading up their cars with clothes and memorabilia from another year completed. We’ll see a good number of them back in another week to start summer school or work experiences.

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It’s no secret that the present and birthday wish I’m asking for is to be in good health and cleared to come home after the surgery.

Thursday, May 20, 2010

A day of many celebrations!

For morning break the Development office had scrumptious cake and Marina’s famous homemade strawberry ice cream to celebrate my birthday a little early.

For lunch my management team treated me to a sandwich and conversation at the downtown bistro. It’s no secret that the present and birthday wish I’m asking for is to be in good health and cleared to come home after the surgery.

This afternoon we had a reception for one of our teacher’s aides that completed her student teaching this semester. Congratulations to Michelle, we know that your training will help you reach the students in new ways.

I’ve been helping Nate, one of our houseparents, learn how to play guitar. After working on some liturgical music he’ll use for church, we went into Rock and Roll mode and had fun jamming to Cat Steven’s “Peace Train”, which took me way back to my high school days.

Brenton and Bryan from the Rec Center gave me a tour of an area in the hills behind the main campus where they are considering putting in an obstacle/team building course designed to teach our youth how to cooperate and build self confidence. Quality recreation is always important. Because students live here, we look for ways the fun times can also reinforce values and learning.

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The oncologist called today with last week’s MRI results. The tumor has been steadily shrinking, which is such encouraging news. It will also make the surgeon’s job that much easier next week.

Wednesday, May 19, 2010

The oncologist called today with last week’s MRI results. The tumor has been steadily shrinking, which is such encouraging news. It will also make the surgeon’s job that much easier next week.

First diagnosis – 12 x 11 x 10 centimeters

After chemotherapy – 11.8 x 8.9 x 8.5 cm

After radiation – 9.5 x 7.7 x 6.9 cm

Since it’s shrinking in all 3 directions, the size is significantly smaller – 1320 cubic cm at first, and now under 500! The combination of good medical care and so many prayers is apparently working!

After school we gathered in the Rec Center to say farewell to the seven Child Services staff who will moving on to other adventures in their lives. Some staff serve at St. Joseph’s for a limited time.

Three of the departing houseparents have been here between one and two years, and have contributed a lot in a short time. The other four, two teachers and two houseparents, have been on staff for between 15 and 25 years! We will surely miss each of their gifts. Yet I’m confident that new people will step in and bring new gifts, abilities and talents. They will become the characters, and the rock, that St. Joseph’s is built on.

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I’m growing impatient with the waiting and am ready to get on with surgery, which is one week from today. The sooner the tumor is removed, the sooner I can allow for healing and let the recovery begin.

Tuesday, May 18, 2010

At this point it has become harder to focus on work. I’m growing impatient with the waiting and am ready to get on with surgery, which is one week from today. The sooner the tumor is removed, the sooner I can allow for healing and let the recovery begin.

Today was a day full of meetings to sit through that helped me focus on the tasks at hand. The meetings also took on a festive air as staff are starting to celebrate my birthday a few weeks early since I’ll be in the hospital then.

At the morning management meeting we had some tasty muffins complete with a lit birthday candle and song. At the afternoon Child Services Team meeting Karla brought a pizza sized sugar cookie from the local bakery that we could all share.

If there is one thing we do well around St. Joseph’s, it’s taking time to celebrate.

Dr. Mitchell, Chamberlain’s public school superintendent, is moving on to another job next month. I dropped by the open house to wish well. I especially wanted to say thanks for how he’s collaborated with our St. Joseph’s staff and students over the years.

There are times we need special accommodations – like at parent-teacher conferences when a houseparent has to meet with the teachers of all ten of their kids! The superintendent has initiated some productive discussions on how to provide good transitions and experiences for our students.

The new superintendent worked at St. Joseph’s some years back, and then became the high school principal. Because Dr. Johnson also knows our students and programs well, we look forward to keeping that collaborative relationship strong.

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My SCJ community starts each day with morning prayer a little before seven.

Monday, May 17, 2010

My SCJ community starts each day with morning prayer a little before seven.

As I walked down the hill to the chapel, I noticed how the days are getting a little brighter each morning; today, the sun was already peaking over the hill when I left the house.

There was dew on the grass … birds chirping in many harmonies. Campus is quiet before the day starts, and you never know what each day will bring. But, having a serious illness gives you a perspective that life is fragile and precious, and each new day is a gift.

Before prayer, I prayed I will continue to use my time wisely in a way that benefits others.

Besides office work and a trip to the business office, I got to enjoy our 8th graders giving their PowerPoint presentations on figures in history.

I was running late, and they actually finished early. But, the students were really enthusiastic, and had a little class time left, so Cody and Jackie asked if they could do theirs again – a repeat performance. I learned a few new things about John Adams and JFK.

I also learned to appreciated the enthusiasm of a young person who’s put in a lot of work and wants to share.

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Today at church, we honored and prayed for our graduates. We’ll have 26 eighth graders walking up the aisle in two weeks, the biggest group in some years.

Sunday, May 16, 2010

Today at church, we honored and prayed for our graduates. We’ll have 26 eighth graders walking up the aisle in two weeks, the biggest group in some years.

We honored Tammy LaRoche-Wagaman, who graduated eighth grade from St. Joseph’s in 1984, with our Distinguished Alumni Award. Tammy was recognized for her outstanding work in the nursing field.

We hope her example inspires our current students to persevere with their education. We may not have any famous alumni, but we are blessed with many who go about their work and make a great contribution to their tribes and communities.

We had a dinner after church for two seniors who have stayed on with St. Joseph’s High School program and graduate from Chamberlain High School next Sunday.

In the past, we’ve had trouble trying to get the seniors to say a few words, but Kelsey and Stefen each talked for about 20 minutes, with lots of memories to share. Stefen has been her for four years, and Kelsey has been here all 12. Their recollections were filled with both laughter and the emotional tears of saying goodbye. Maija put together a slide show that helped us remember them through the years.

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I’m glad when students can see the faith of their peers. We all prayed the Holy Spirit be strong with these young people throughout their life journey.

Saturday, May 15, 2010

This evening, six of our high school students celebrated the sacrament of confirmation at St. James church here in Chamberlain. They joined with the confirmandi from two nearby parishes.

All the students are classmates at Chamberlain High School, so there was already a familiarity and comfort with one another. Jesse, from our program, was asked to stand up and thank the bishop on behalf of the class. I enjoyed catching up with all the family members present at the dinner afterward.

Their choice of sponsors was an interesting mix. One picked someone from home, but the others chose St. Joseph’s personnel as someone they look up to as an example of faithful witness. One counselor sponsored two sisters. A houseparent and the college prep coordinator were also involved.

Just last year, one of our other high school students, Erin, finished her own preparation and was baptized and fully initiated. One of her classmates asked Erin to be her sponsor.

I’m glad when students can see the faith of their peers. We all prayed the Holy Spirit be strong with these young people throughout their life journey.

I saw the bishop for the first time since my diagnosis. He offered his prayers and support and got the latest update. Lots of parishioners also came up and offered support and kind words. My name is listed on many church bulletins, prayer groups and mass intentions, not just here in the area, but far and wide.

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Tonight, I got back from a “quick” trip to the hospital for pre-surgery tests and appointments. The drive is long, 375 miles each way, but I’m feeling well enough to do that by myself.

Thursday, May 13, 2010

Tonight, I got back from a “quick” trip to the hospital for pre-surgery tests and appointments. The drive is long, 375 miles each way, but I’m feeling well enough to do that by myself.

I drove out Wednesday and back today. Driving on the prairie isn’t all that stressful when the weather is good. There’s little traffic, and I just put the cruise control on and use the time to pray, think or listen to music or a ball game.

The doctors packed in a lot of tests, and results I have back so far are encouraging. My blood work shows that my counts have climbed back to normal, which is especially good news for my immune system.

The CT scan of my chest shows the cancer has not affected my lungs. The EKG told the doctors my heart is strong (maybe part of my charisma as a Priest of the Sacred Heart?) and able to handle surgery.

I had two tests that the results are still pending from. The vascular surgeon ordered an ultrasound of the veins in my abdomen and legs, to look at the blood flow, and help them determine how much the blood vessels have been affected by the tumor. If some of the veins need to be resected or replaced that will be one of the more complicated parts of the surgery.

I had another MRI to see what effect the chemo and radiation has had on the tumor, but those results were not back by the time I met with the oncologist. When he looked over the other results, he was quite pleased. He doesn’t’ expect me to need any more chemotherapy, which is definitely good news.

With a little over a week to go before surgery, I’m feeling pretty good going in. I tell folks I’m about 85% of normal. The doctors expect 6 – 12 weeks of recovery, and I’ll just have to let the medicines and my body take the time to heal.

I came back home to another pile of cards and letters with lots of prayers and encouragement. I have certainly felt blessed and loved through this whole process!